Very interesting article on this topic. This is something that has been going on through the centuries. Well, here are the reasons and my personal theory on them:
He won't commit to a future with you. He promises you the world and his undying love, but that is how he feels at that moment.
Cheating on his wife tells you how he deals with any situation he doesn't like. So, if things aren't satisfying between the two of you, what makes you think he won't cheat on you?
Hiding is exhausting. Is this what you want? Secret rendezvous and very little time with him? This is not dating.
He's got his cake and is eating it, too. Other words, you are just a side dish!
Can you love someone who is so disrespectful of his wife? Love?? More like be involved with someone like this. Would you want him to treat you like he treats his wife?
Lose his respect and it's over. This is true. You disrespect him and he can very easily find the next person and the next person, etc... It's won't matter to him.
You're not a home wrecker, just an accomplice. He will say that you lured him and will play the innocent.
You're kidding yourself. He won't leave his wife, no matter what he tells you. You are only there to satisfy his sexual urges. He gets to have the best of both worlds. A loving wife and kids. Then, a secret lover for a little something something.
Beware the guilt boomerang. If he gets caught, he will blame you for everything.
Time is too precious to waste. Waiting for him to make a commitment to you, will take quite some time. As the days, months and possibly years go by, you would have missed the chance to meet someone who can give you what you truly deserve in a relationship.
Married men spell trouble and heartache. But I shouldn't be bias here, this also applies with married women too. Safe thing to do is...flirt with them and keep it at that!
Ok, I just found out that they are setting up the outdoor ice skating rink at Justin Herman Plaza (aka Embarcadero 4 in San Francisco). It's the west coast answer to the Rockefeller Center. The rink isn't as big as Rockefeller Center (judging from movies and television specials). But it does have that winter atmosphere. Fake snow, Christmas lights and sculptures as the decorations.
Lines of people waiting to put in some skating. Beginner skaters and intermediate ones are on the ice. There are specified times for certain skaters. Every year, I would walk by and check out the atmosphere. It is a bit pricey for renting the skates and admission to skate. Thing is, it happens once a year. Scenes of skaters, skating to music play on loud speakers. Shoppers walking by. People sitting down, watching and having a hot beverage.
Visions of this, make me excited about my trip to the east coast in December. There, I will see how they celebrate the holidays. The beautiful decorations, lights and the skating rink in Rockefeller Center. The hustle and bustle of the city. Feeling the crisp cold air. And if possible, snow!
